These next three are in reverse order, but I'm too lazy to change it. :)
This is my Mom and the boys making reindeer's out of Nutter Butter cookies. They turned out very cute. Then we got a little more creative and made other animals and Juan even figured out how to make a car with a seat. He is the most creative of the three.
We're still looking for a decent snowfall. This is still a daily topic of conversation and watching the weather report on the news at least twice a day. I sure hope this isn't the first winter I can remember where we didn't get at least one decent snow.
We still see glimpses of what's going on inside their minds and that they are still trying to figure out this whole adoption/forever family thing. On the way to Grandma's last weekend for Christmas Juan asked if his foster mother was still his Mami. I told him that I was his Mami now. It's been over a year now and it seems he's still processing what it means to be adopted and having us as his Mom and Dad forever. Maicol had a dream this week in which he was taken away and placed in a different home. They were told by their foster family that if they weren't good they would be sent back, so to him I think this is still a very real possibility. He has had that on his mind alot the last couple of days. I guess the good part is that the possibility of that made him very unhappy, so he is happy to be here with us. But, I hate that he thinks that it could even be possible that he is not here forever. He has also recently been asking/stating he is our son forever and will be here forever. We've reiterated that message with all of them alot the last few days. While to us their permanence with us is so obvious to them it isn't. I think for them all the talking in the world doesn't mean much - it's the day-to-day living with us and seeing that nothing changes that is very slowly beginning to seal it in their heads and hearts.
Time for a little shut-eye. Enjoy your weekend and for those of you with snow - know that we are very jealous!
Karen
4 comments:
Love the pictures. Thank you very much. The boys are so fortunate to have two such loving parents. Love you, Mom
I love the tree pictures! Trees are on my favorite places to take pictures. Thanks for sharing how your boys are processing the adoption. I appreciate your openness about it. It's good to know what older child adoption is really like. Happy New Year!
Hey Karen,
I have been talking more and more about the adoption lately. The children didn't just open up and talk about it, and after talking to Julie a bit; I don't want them to think it is a "bad" thing to talk about... so I shared their story with them... They seemed interested, but Tatiana is the only one who repeats it. I wonder what goes on in Andrew's mind. He doesn't talk about his foster family at all...it's as if it's all been repressed...
I definitely think that permanence is huge in their minds. I know our daughter calrifies all the time to make sure that I will be her forever mommy. With a life of instability I guess it's easy to understand why.
I adored the tree pictures. They so beautifully capture the boys and their time together. I may have to try a few like that and hope my kids don't break their arms! : )
Traci
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