Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Then and Now

Wow! It's been a whole year since we became parents again. Some days it's hard to believe it's only been a year and other days it seems like it's been forever. Thinking about where we were a year ago and where we are now is almost unbelieveable sometimes. August 27, 2007 -the moment that we had waited and planned for. As they brought the boys into the room to meet us it was just indescribable. In an instant we were a family. We have spent the last year trying to figure each other out - who likes to eat what, who needs a nap, what makes each one smile, who likes to play what, etc. None of that has been made any easier by the language and culture barriers that we have all faced. We are still discovering what makes each one unique. The boys are still trying to figure out so many things that are different in the US. Their English is good, but all those phrases and slang terms we use and understand so easily are lost on them. We still spend alot of time each day explaining what words mean and why certain things are funny. Andrew doesn't seem to remember very much Spanish and while the other two claim they don't, they still like to watch movies in Spanish. Maicol is reading English, Juan can sound out words and Andrew has learned about 3 letters and their sounds. They have learned to ride bikes, swim, sit still in a restaurant, play computer games and sit and listen to their Papi read bedtime stories. We have learned to explain words and situations with simple words, be patient, plan ahead, cook 3 meals a day and love them regardless of what they do or say. Has it been easy for us - no. Has it been easy for them - no. Could we have imagined what it would be like - not completely. Would we do it again - YES.

Maicol asked me today - "Why do you love us?" What a question from a 9 year old. He's still trying so hard to believe that I do love him and that he will be my son forever. It doesn't matter what he says or does - I still love him. My answer to his question was "Because I decided to". While they are beautiful children and most of the time a joy to have in our home the bottom line is that love is a choice. We have made the choice to love them and they make that choice too. I know they don't understand that completely yet, but someday they will.

Here's a picture of us a year ago in Colombia and a picture taken Sunday. What were we thinking then? Probably the same thing we were thinking Sunday - "Is it bedtime yet?" :)

Thanks for following along on our journey to become a family.




4 comments:

Connie said...

You guys look great! I can't believe it's been a whole year. We can't decide what day to really, truly celebrate. The day they were handed to us (Feb. 21st) the day we signed the adoption papers (March 13) or the day we came home(March 23). It's confusing, isn't it? We've been celebrating the 23rd, since that's the day we became a whole family--with the other kids too. So today is our 18 month anniversary!

Anonymous said...

We love you and your whole family. What an accomplishment in only a year. What a blessing it is for us seeing how happy you are. Lots of love Mom

La Familia Armstrong said...

I really enjoyed your synopsis of your year together! You are a special family and an encouragement to us. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

You said "love them regardless of what they do or say..." No better parents can there be than those who believe in those words and act upon them. You are wonderful and patient parents. You are a lovely and inspiring family.